Do not confuse “Tolerance” with pacifism. There is no requirement for the faithful to go to the stake as a lamb is willingly led to the slaughter. Always remember that the gods did not give the wolf teeth with the expectation that it not use them in defense of self, or the pack. We are no different. We are not bound by silly “laws of three” or concepts of divine retribution for every bad thought, act, or miscast spell. Yes, all actions have a reaction. Yes we should think before we act… but we should never let fear bind our hands in relation to self defense.
Adhere to the core definition of tolerance; a fair, objective, and permissive attitude toward opinions and practices that differ from one’s own. Hold it as a guiding principle. In the end this will go a long way to preventing much violence and ill will for all concerned.